Almost three years ago today my husband was looking for a new job just like you. After many exhausting interviews he was offered a position with a major hotel chain as their Staffing Director. On paper, it was everything he wanted. The job description was perfect for this next phase of his career. The money and company benefits were very attractive, but for some reason, I did not have peace about him accepting this position.
My biggest concern was that his daily commute would go from 15 minutes each way to one hour each way. With his current office being so close to our home it allowed him to drive our daughter to school every day, which was considered precious daddy daughter time for both of them. The short commute also allowed for him and I to have lunch dates during the week. (If you are like me you hate to pay babysitters if you don’t have to.) These spontaneous lunch dates have been a blessing to us since before we got married, so to give these up, was a big deal for both of us.
Because I did not have peace about him accepting this job, I had to search deep within myself to determine if I was being selfish or if God was guiding my intuition and telling me it might not be best for our family. This might sound strange to you if you are not a believer, but God’s spirit wants to guide us through each and every step of our lives. We just have to be open to his voice and direction.
The best way I knew to search my soul was to go to my heavenly father and ask him point blank to reveal to me whether or not my heart was in the right place. Did I need to just take a step back and let my husband climb the corporate ladder or did I need to protect the closeness of my family? The night before he was to accept or decline their offer, I went into my bedroom, closed the door and wept on my knees asking God why I was feeling so uneasy about this. I begged him for 2 things – either to give me peace, if this was what he wanted for us, or for him to remove the offer from our path because we were not strong enough to decline it ourselves. The benefits were too enticing for all of us.
I woke up the next morning still feeling very uneasy about the offer. The peace to accept and support my husband still had not come. I was very weary and honestly, did not know what to do. I wanted to be a supportive wife, but it was not happening naturally.
When my husband arrived at work that morning he received a call from the recruiter. My husband asked if he could have until lunch to make his decision. She said that was fine and that she would wait for his call. A few minutes later, to my husband’s surprise, she called back stating they decided “he was just not excited enough about this opportunity so they were rescinding the offer”. WOW – talk about a shock for him… He reluctantly said he understood, and they ended the conversation. He called me immediately to share the news. To some extent, I was shocked, but I also knew with all my heart that God answered my prayer by removing this opportunity from our path.
God knows what decisions we need to make to live the best lives he created us to live. There are so many paths we can take, but when we invite God into our lives he will help us choose the best path. I am sure there have been many times that I did not heed his wisdom and made choices that took me down a rough path I could have possibly avoided.
Not long after that scenario, my husband was offered an even better job that fit our family’s needs and our schedules. God worked out all the details for us, and the peace that we had when we made the move was unexplainable. (By the way the spontaneous lunch dates are still going on!!)
I want to leave you today with part of the prayer that I prayed the night I was on my knees begging for his guidance.
Heavenly father, Thank you for loving us enough to want to guide our lives. Please open only doors in our job search that will enable us to live a life that you will be proud of and close doors that could lead us down a path of destruction. I am giving you full control of our future because I know that you created us and you do know what is best for us.
Amen.
Just in case you need some proof that God really hears you and wants to guide you…
Micah 7:7 My God will certainly hear me.
Jeremiah 33:3 Call to me, I WILL ANSWER you great and mighty things which you do not know.
Psalm 121:7-8 The Lord will keep you from all harm, He will watch over your life; The Lord will watch over your coming and going both now and forevermore.
I read this beautiful quote by an unknown author, a few years ago, that sums up everything so perfectly “God leads and speaks to the humble who have surrendered their plans and want to do his will. With an “open heart” and a surrendered will, we will be able to clearly HEAR god’s voice in our hearts.”